‘Love at first sight’ is something we all have heard. However, you can’t fall in love with someone within few seconds. One can definitely get attracted towards someone for their good looks or a particular habit. When you first go through such an experience you often feel confused. You are not sure whether you are in love with them or it’s just mere attraction. It’s hard to differentiate between the two when you are infatuated it feels like you are in love, however, that’s not the case. Infatuation is short-lived while love is deep and long lasted. Here are 10 signs which tells you that it’s just infatuation & not love.
1. It’s quick, while real love takes time to sink in
Infatuation is instant, you can fall in for someone just like that. Once they are out of it, they start seeing all the wrong things with the relationship. While love takes time to digest as two people get to know each other more closely. If you want to find real love in life, you need to build that kind of confidence and trust with one another.
2. Infatuation demands more physical connection rather than building a deep connection
Infatuation is more about physical attraction for the other person. You tend to demand more of their physical affection rather than really getting into a relationship. Love goes deeper, its a connection between to minds and souls. It’s not the physical need of your body, it’s about finding one true partner. That’s why teenage love is often considered as weak and incomplete.
3. It’s all about yourself
You are more interested in yourself. In short, you want to get the max out of a relationship for yourself. They keep their goals limited to their own pleasure. You tent to have a dream life. While in love, you talk about more serious things. You discuss your future, career, kids and what lies ahead for both of you.
4. Infatuation is obsession while love is about caring for each other.
Infatuation brings out the insecurities in you. You always feel insecure about your partner, what they are doing? and whom are they connecting to? Also, you feel jealous when you see someone having a better relationship than you. Only because you don’t carry those feelings, you are always looking for better. In love, you learn to compromise. There is no such thing is getting better. It’s about making your life better with mutual trust.
5. Everything seems perfect
Oh yes, everything looks so perfect. You don’t find anything wrong, you accept everything as they are. You find all their positiveness so attractive that you simply ignore the other part. Making someone feel that God made them so flawless is an imperfection in itself. You make superficial rules to build your relationship. You avoid getting into a debate because you feel things might fall off. Nobody is born perfect, we all have flaws. In fact, love is about knowing their weaknesses and accepting them. True love is about acceptance, good or bad, one learns to live with it. While you are in love you can get into some rough discussions but you know how to resolve those issues.
6. Love is about everything around you and not just two people
If your relationship takes you away from your friends, family and boycotting the rest of the society. Someone in a true relationship learns to accept everyone and everything around you. They won’t ask you to leave your friends or limit yourself. Also, a lot of people let go of many important things such as they compromise on their career. They risk their future because you are unable to see anything. When in love it works the other way, you feel more responsible and determined. You are more dedicated towards your goals in life because you want a better life for yourselves.
7. Love teaches you to let go of things
Infatuation makes you hyper over small things. Even a tiny thing can stir up an unnecessary debate. It can lead to a disagreement and often ends up at an end of a relationship. Well, when you really love someone you let go of small things. You accept them and avoid getting into such unnecessary conversations which can damage your relationship for no reason.
8. You think you know everything
A lot of times people believe they know each other very well just because you are attracted towards each other. If you really haven’t set together and discussed their future and what they want in life, then you really don’t know each other. You can only fall in love with someone then you really need to talk to each other. The more you talk, the more you will know about the other person. Maybe, you might not like them after knowing certain things about them or you may like them more. Having a conversation is necessary.
9. Love takes you one step ahead
Love takes it time and with time you learn a lot about each other. You discuss everything and plan together on how to take your relationship further. While infatuation is all about what you have in present. You want to have everything in a moment you are living in.
10. Love makes you more confident while infatuation lives under a shadow of fear.
You are always worried about losing the other person. This takes away the true essence of a relationship. You are not yourself when you are infatuated towards someone. These feelings are not a sign of love but it’s just the insecurity inside you. The fear of losing someone is the first sign that you haven’t built that trust. While love makes you confident. You never get these thoughts because you know that no matter what, they would stand beside you.
The 10 Not So Right Things That Can Happen On A First Date
Everyone’s first date is always special. No matter if it’s before getting engaged or after, it means something to everyone. You always remember the special moments from your first date. By first, we don’t mean the very first. It would be the first with your partner. People these days have many first dates. The first experiences can be exciting and sometimes awkward. We have shortlisted the 10 not so right things that can happen on a first date.
1. Arriving Late
This is the worst thing you can do on a date. Be early but never reach late. It leaves an extremely bad impression on your partner.
2. Using your phone
This is completely against the ethics. When you are meeting someone for the first time this leaves a very bad impression on the other person.
3. Trying to be too funny
Don’t try to be so funny. People who act too funny are normally little non-serious and often fail to solve complex situations.
4. Don’t eat like, as if you have eaten your whole life.
Remember you are there for someone else. It’s not the food you are there for.
5. Don’t be too full of yourself
Just don’t talk about yourself, too much of ‘me’ can ruin everything. The other person is not there to learn about how awesome you are, they are there to know someone who they can spend their life with.
6. Avoid being controversial.
There will be a lot of time to learn about each other’s opinions on things if the date goes well. So, first take it to the next step. Don’t pass on any comments which may trigger someone’s emotional side.
7. Trying to get an answer for everything
There is no need to investigate everything. Take it lightly on the first date, you don’t each other so well. Too much digging can get too personal and offend the other person.
8. Talk to the hotel staff nicely.
Your behavior is the most important thing if you want to have a second chance. How you behave and deal with other people is a testimonial of this.
9. Tip them nicely
This shows how generous are you and you care about such small things.
10. The awkward silence
The worst of all is going silent during the conversation. Such silence gives the other person an impression that you are not really interested in them or the meeting.
13 Most Common Things All Of Us Do With Our Best Friends
Best friends a blessing & they are meant to be something special. An internal bond, which lives through the rest of our lives. Your best of friends are like your pillars, which makes you feel stronger when you are down. They are your true strength and always someone you can rely on for an honest advice. Even, if it hurts they would put the truth on your face. Here are 13 most common things all of us do with our best friends and that makes our relationship with them beautiful.
1. If they hate you, then so do I.
can’t really do much about it, this is how it works.
2. TAG them, everywhere!
Whenever you find something interesting on Facebook, they are the first ones to know.
3. They remember everything which is important to you
They will always remind you of the submission dates of your assignments, exams schedule and even about meet-ups
4. You can gossip all night and day
All those little secrets.
5. You trust them with everything.
You share with them all the good and bad things have happened to you.
6. Find out everything about their crush
Even though it’s their choice, but you will always have some doubts. In fact, you want the best and don’t want them to get hurt. Therefore, you always run your full inspection on them to find out everything you can.
7. You are like a family, everybody knows you
Everybody around the corner knows you, the only person they have seen their kid hanged out with is you, from phone calls to everything, they know you are important.
8. You call their dad or mom directly when you can’t trace them
You have all the emergency numbers.
9. Go down the memory lane and find all the embarrassing moments and share them on social media
Where the f**k they find that.
10. Group calls!
Getting on a conference call whether its a latest gossip or to discuss a meet-up plan
11. Borrow each other’s stuff without worrying when to return it.
You know when you don’t have anything where to go to. In fact, at times on a special day, they would offer their things so that you look the best.
12. Staying at each other house for movies
Watching your favorite movies together, staying at each other place and later discussing it.
13. Look for each other’s back.
You are always ready to save each other’s ass. It could be a random call from their home, inquiring about them or maybe something else. You are always ready with a story proving your friend innocent and not-guilty.
5 Things You Hear Every Day If You Are A Talkative Girl
We all talk about how difficult it is to hear things about yourself if you are an introvert person. Like people constantly judge you and aim their taunts at you for not being as social as them. However, what no one talks about is how painful it could be to be an overly social person. So today we would share with you 5 things you hear every day if you are a talkative girl.
1. ‘Yar Iskay Moonh Me Koi Filter Nahi’?
This is one of the biggest negative comments that a talkative girl has to hear. Since she loves talking, people start assuming that it’s their right to judge her. A lot of them even dare say things like ‘don’t you have a filter in your mouth’ right to your face if you are one.
2. ‘Kya Kha Kar Aee Thee’?
It’s actually funny how you can be judged that you have these superpowers after eating something. It’s like one of the old superstitions we had, that’s the reason it is said to the person who talks a lot ‘kawway khaay hain kya’?
3. ‘Iska Susral Main Kaisay Guzara Hoga’?
‘How would your MiL bear you’? ‘You would have to change yourself’ are the two things talkative girls hear all the time. Its high time people realize that how a girl lives with her susral is none of their business.
If you are a person who loves to poke your nose in another girls’ personal space, know that your daughter could go through the same situation soon!
4. ‘You Are Using your Tongue more and mind, less?’
It’s a common assumption that people who talk a lot, use their brains less. I want the readers to know that it’s not always like that. You can keep both, your tongue and brain, fresh. You can observe things and yet talk about your observations so others could learn a thing or two.
5. ‘Don’t you ever shut up?’
Imagine you are talking to your friend who does not like to talk much unlike you and all of sudden you hear ‘don’t you ever shut up’ from her. How agonizing would it be, right?
This is why the wise once preached us to be careful with how you play with your words. You can end up hurting the person you love the most.
Since we all like to be preached in the best manner, so preach the way you want to be preached. It’s understandable sometimes we all simply are not in the mood of listening to the gossips and stories of friends but it still does not give us license of judging them.