The first twenty years of your life are comparatively very easy. Though while going through that phase, many think they are having the toughest time in their lives. The truth is that it’s not everything. There could be a lot of pressure of getting good grades and proving yourself to the world. The real effort begins when you move out of your teens. Even as a teenager you don’t understand the real meaning of relationships.
The relationships you get into are mostly because you are attracted towards someone. It’s difficult to understand what real love looks like. However, the real struggle starts in your twenties. The moment you hit the twenties, life falls out from every direction. There is so much to handle when it comes to relationships. Whether it’s your friends or you get into some special relationship. Even your relationship with parents tends to alter as you grow. The world expects more than what you able to deliver. To help make your life better, here are 8 essential tips to survive your twenties without getting stressed out.
1. Learn from your failures rather than holding it back
This is all part of the twenties, you get into relationships and then things fall off. It might take a couple of hits before you find the right person. You don’t have to hold yourself back with such experiences. People run into depression and get stuck in their past. The right thing to do is to look back and see what did go wrong? There is nothing wrong in re-considering your past. Many people say that one should not think about their past experiences but that’s not the case. Going back is just one of those important things in life. It helps you to recover your old wounds. Learn from your past mistakes and move on.
2. Save some for yourself and travel
Unfortunately, in our culture, we hardly encourage traveling in our teenage years. There are a couple of reasons to it, as we don’t encourage our kids to find jobs in early ages. It’s not necessary that you only opt for international destinations. Traveling open up your mind and makes you confident. You learn to handle yourself and communicate with different people. Also, when you are traveling with your friends or alone, the cost is not a concern. You don’t all the five star leverages, all you need is a decent place to stay because most of your time goes in exploring the place.
3. Don’t put your damn life on social media
Probably, this was not the case a decade ago but in recent times everything is for everyone’s grab. The generation of today has half of their lives on social media. We measure our lives in terms of likes and shares on our social media post. There is a post for everything, making us almost perfect. The perfect photo of the food we make or eat. The perfect friends and family circle we have. However, in claiming those likes we actually lose our own true selves. Social media platforms were built to communicate rather than informing people about your own self. Most of these stories are not true and we all know that. So, it’s better if you try to explore the real life and make the best out of it, rather than missing out on some key moments because you are too concern about what’s going on your social media timeline.
4. Decide yourself, what really you want your life to be.
Don’t make it hard on yourself by looking at all the success stories around you. Yes, there would be some people who had achieved great things while in their 20s but that doesn’t mean you have to feel stressed out by their achievements. You are not doing anything wrong either, all you need to do is to see what you really want to accomplish in life. The easiest way to do that is not to compare yourself with others.
5. Keep an eye your bills, so be wise with your savings.
A lot of young people rush for credit cards as soon as they get the first job. We all have dreams, we all want to buy things we couldn’t afford before. Often in such a rush people end up swapping the card everywhere. But before you go crazy, remember these bills will not leave you alone. The banks don’t leave anyone so you would be paying too many installments leaving you behind with minimal or no savings at all.
6. Work hard on built your career
When you kick off your career, either with an internship or your first job. Put extra effort and work harder than others around you. Just put everything online, show them what you have got. You might feel tired or at times underpaid but remember this is all you have and the effort you are putting in now will lead you to a better life tomorrow.
7. Embrace yourself
The best part of the twenties, you can wear what you like without really caring about what people think. Embrace yourself, don’t be bothered with what people think of your physical appearance. There are far more important things in life, so don’t waste those precious minutes of your life on worrying about this petty stuff.
8. Take a good night sleep!
While we are in our twenties, we have this extra dose of energy. Our body can take more than it’s actual ability. Also, there are so much we want to do besides studying. We want to hang out with friends, stay late to watch our favorite movies, talk to friends etc. However, depriving yourself of a good sleep at night will eventually make you regret later in your life. Times will come when you would really wish to get a good sleep but your commitments would demand something else.
The 10 Not So Right Things That Can Happen On A First Date
Everyone’s first date is always special. No matter if it’s before getting engaged or after, it means something to everyone. You always remember the special moments from your first date. By first, we don’t mean the very first. It would be the first with your partner. People these days have many first dates. The first experiences can be exciting and sometimes awkward. We have shortlisted the 10 not so right things that can happen on a first date.
1. Arriving Late
This is the worst thing you can do on a date. Be early but never reach late. It leaves an extremely bad impression on your partner.
2. Using your phone
This is completely against the ethics. When you are meeting someone for the first time this leaves a very bad impression on the other person.
3. Trying to be too funny
Don’t try to be so funny. People who act too funny are normally little non-serious and often fail to solve complex situations.
4. Don’t eat like, as if you have eaten your whole life.
Remember you are there for someone else. It’s not the food you are there for.
5. Don’t be too full of yourself
Just don’t talk about yourself, too much of ‘me’ can ruin everything. The other person is not there to learn about how awesome you are, they are there to know someone who they can spend their life with.
6. Avoid being controversial.
There will be a lot of time to learn about each other’s opinions on things if the date goes well. So, first take it to the next step. Don’t pass on any comments which may trigger someone’s emotional side.
7. Trying to get an answer for everything
There is no need to investigate everything. Take it lightly on the first date, you don’t each other so well. Too much digging can get too personal and offend the other person.
8. Talk to the hotel staff nicely.
Your behavior is the most important thing if you want to have a second chance. How you behave and deal with other people is a testimonial of this.
9. Tip them nicely
This shows how generous are you and you care about such small things.
10. The awkward silence
The worst of all is going silent during the conversation. Such silence gives the other person an impression that you are not really interested in them or the meeting.
13 Most Common Things All Of Us Do With Our Best Friends
Best friends a blessing & they are meant to be something special. An internal bond, which lives through the rest of our lives. Your best of friends are like your pillars, which makes you feel stronger when you are down. They are your true strength and always someone you can rely on for an honest advice. Even, if it hurts they would put the truth on your face. Here are 13 most common things all of us do with our best friends and that makes our relationship with them beautiful.
1. If they hate you, then so do I.
can’t really do much about it, this is how it works.
2. TAG them, everywhere!
Whenever you find something interesting on Facebook, they are the first ones to know.
3. They remember everything which is important to you
They will always remind you of the submission dates of your assignments, exams schedule and even about meet-ups
4. You can gossip all night and day
All those little secrets.
5. You trust them with everything.
You share with them all the good and bad things have happened to you.
6. Find out everything about their crush
Even though it’s their choice, but you will always have some doubts. In fact, you want the best and don’t want them to get hurt. Therefore, you always run your full inspection on them to find out everything you can.
7. You are like a family, everybody knows you
Everybody around the corner knows you, the only person they have seen their kid hanged out with is you, from phone calls to everything, they know you are important.
8. You call their dad or mom directly when you can’t trace them
You have all the emergency numbers.
9. Go down the memory lane and find all the embarrassing moments and share them on social media
Where the f**k they find that.
10. Group calls!
Getting on a conference call whether its a latest gossip or to discuss a meet-up plan
11. Borrow each other’s stuff without worrying when to return it.
You know when you don’t have anything where to go to. In fact, at times on a special day, they would offer their things so that you look the best.
12. Staying at each other house for movies
Watching your favorite movies together, staying at each other place and later discussing it.
13. Look for each other’s back.
You are always ready to save each other’s ass. It could be a random call from their home, inquiring about them or maybe something else. You are always ready with a story proving your friend innocent and not-guilty.
5 Things You Hear Every Day If You Are A Talkative Girl
We all talk about how difficult it is to hear things about yourself if you are an introvert person. Like people constantly judge you and aim their taunts at you for not being as social as them. However, what no one talks about is how painful it could be to be an overly social person. So today we would share with you 5 things you hear every day if you are a talkative girl.
1. ‘Yar Iskay Moonh Me Koi Filter Nahi’?
This is one of the biggest negative comments that a talkative girl has to hear. Since she loves talking, people start assuming that it’s their right to judge her. A lot of them even dare say things like ‘don’t you have a filter in your mouth’ right to your face if you are one.
2. ‘Kya Kha Kar Aee Thee’?
It’s actually funny how you can be judged that you have these superpowers after eating something. It’s like one of the old superstitions we had, that’s the reason it is said to the person who talks a lot ‘kawway khaay hain kya’?
3. ‘Iska Susral Main Kaisay Guzara Hoga’?
‘How would your MiL bear you’? ‘You would have to change yourself’ are the two things talkative girls hear all the time. Its high time people realize that how a girl lives with her susral is none of their business.
If you are a person who loves to poke your nose in another girls’ personal space, know that your daughter could go through the same situation soon!
4. ‘You Are Using your Tongue more and mind, less?’
It’s a common assumption that people who talk a lot, use their brains less. I want the readers to know that it’s not always like that. You can keep both, your tongue and brain, fresh. You can observe things and yet talk about your observations so others could learn a thing or two.
5. ‘Don’t you ever shut up?’
Imagine you are talking to your friend who does not like to talk much unlike you and all of sudden you hear ‘don’t you ever shut up’ from her. How agonizing would it be, right?
This is why the wise once preached us to be careful with how you play with your words. You can end up hurting the person you love the most.
Since we all like to be preached in the best manner, so preach the way you want to be preached. It’s understandable sometimes we all simply are not in the mood of listening to the gossips and stories of friends but it still does not give us license of judging them.