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Why Is It Ok To Shed Tears When We Are Sad Or Happy?

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Are you among those people who are sentimental enough to blubber in quickly in times of emotional arousal? This read is going to be interesting for we have come up with reasons as to why is it OK to shed tears when we are sad or happy, regardless of the gender.

Whether In Times of Joy Or Fear – We Often End Up Having A Tear

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Be it the unfortunate death of a friend or relative, a failure to secure that job you so badly wanted, or any other such negative experience, you are likely to start the waterworks due to the overwhelmingly painful emotions. In the same way, you must have experienced tears of joy when you finally landed your dream job or became a parent for the first time, or when your country finally won the cricket match with after years of underachievement (yeah my Pakistani comrades, I am talking about you).

Tears Belong To All – Men As Well

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Now interestingly enough, whenever we talk about shedding some tears, there is always the gender debate with regard to crying, as well as the supposed masculine pride in not crying. Our popular culture tends to promote and glorify the “boys/men don’t cry” mantra which is wrong, or maybe totally inhuman, on so many levels.

Of course, there may be scientific evidence or data available that backs the claim that women tend to be more emotional and cry more, but by no means is that a suggestion that men do not or let’s say should not cry.

The alpha male pronouncements of the “real men don’t cry” variety has only resulted in a whole generation of males not quite being capable of properly expressing their emotions, resulting in mental health issues ranging from the mild to the severe variety consequently ending up hurting those around them.

Crying Is Healthy – Here’s Why!

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Be that as it may, the fact remains that crying is a healthy part of our emotional well-being. Mental health experts often advise that it better to let it all out instead of bottling it up and carrying, rather dragging, the emotional baggage.

At this point, I feel like I should take you through the whole scientific process of tear production inside the eyes and tell you the details about how we all produce not one, not two, but three different types of tears. However, I really do not want to bore you so much that you skip reading the piece altogether. For now, let’s just say that the tears in our eyes are produced by the lacrimal gland that is located between the eyeball and the eyelid.

To make it more understandable, tears are a positive depiction of who we really are. They demonstrate not only our deep emotional connection with the world but also allow us to celebrate and cherish this fact.

Let’s Embrace Tears – Cry Your Heart Out Whenever You Feel Like

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As long as there are human emotions, regardless of the gender battles, there will be tears and trust me emotions are sexist, they may appear whenever they want to whoever they like. It’s high time we break this stereotype of ‘strong men never cry’ or ‘women cry a lot’ and simply accept the scientific, humanistic approach towards our emotions!

 

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The 10 Not So Right Things That Can Happen On A First Date

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Everyone’s first date is always special. No matter if it’s before getting engaged or after, it means something to everyone. You always remember the special moments from your first date. By first, we don’t mean the very first. It would be the first with your partner. People these days have many first dates. The first experiences can be exciting and sometimes awkward. We have shortlisted the 10 not so right things that can happen on a first date.

1. Arriving Late

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This is the worst thing you can do on a date. Be early but never reach late. It leaves an extremely bad impression on your partner.

2. Using your phone

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This is completely against the ethics. When you are meeting someone for the first time this leaves a very bad impression on the other person. 

3. Trying to be too funny

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Don’t try to be so funny. People who act too funny are normally little non-serious and often fail to solve complex situations.

4. Don’t eat like, as if you have eaten your whole life.

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Remember you are there for someone else. It’s not the food you are there for. 

5. Don’t be too full of yourself

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Just don’t talk about yourself, too much of ‘me’ can ruin everything. The other person is not there to learn about how awesome you are, they are there to know someone who they can spend their life with. 

6. Avoid being controversial.

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There will be a lot of time to learn about each other’s opinions on things if the date goes well. So, first take it to the next step. Don’t pass on any comments which may trigger someone’s emotional side.

7. Trying to get an answer for everything

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There is no need to investigate everything. Take it lightly on the first date, you don’t each other so well. Too much digging can get too personal and offend the other person.

8. Talk to the hotel staff nicely.

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Your behavior is the most important thing if you want to have a second chance. How you behave and deal with other people is a testimonial of this. 

9. Tip them nicely

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This shows how generous are you and you care about such small things.

10. The awkward silence

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The worst of all is going silent during the conversation. Such silence gives the other person an impression that you are not really interested in them or the meeting.

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13 Most Common Things All Of Us Do With Our Best Friends

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Best friends a blessing & they are meant to be something special. An internal bond, which lives through the rest of our lives. Your best of friends are like your pillars, which makes you feel stronger when you are down. They are your true strength and always someone you can rely on for an honest advice. Even, if it hurts they would put the truth on your face. Here are 13 most common things all of us do with our best friends and that makes our relationship with them beautiful.

1. If they hate you, then so do I.

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can’t really do much about it, this is how it works.

2. TAG them, everywhere!

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Whenever you find something interesting on Facebook, they are the first ones to know.

3. They remember everything which is important to you

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They will always remind you of the submission dates of your assignments, exams schedule and even about meet-ups

4. You can gossip all night and day

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All those little secrets. 

5. You trust them with everything.

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You share with them all the good and bad things have happened to you. 

6. Find out everything about their crush

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Even though it’s their choice, but you will always have some doubts. In fact, you want the best and don’t want them to get hurt. Therefore, you always run your full inspection on them to find out everything you can. 

7. You are like a family, everybody knows you

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Everybody around the corner knows you, the only person they have seen their kid hanged out with is you, from phone calls to everything, they know you are important. 

8. You call their dad or mom directly when you can’t trace them

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You have all the emergency numbers.

9. Go down the memory lane and find all the embarrassing moments and share them on social media

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Where the f**k they find that.

10. Group calls!

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Getting on a conference call whether its a latest gossip or to discuss a meet-up plan

11. Borrow each other’s stuff without worrying when to return it.

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You know when you don’t have anything where to go to. In fact, at times on a special day, they would offer their things so that you look the best.

12. Staying at each other house for movies

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Watching your favorite movies together, staying at each other place and later discussing it.

13. Look for each other’s back.

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You are always ready to save each other’s ass. It could be a random call from their home, inquiring about them or maybe something else. You are always ready with a story proving your friend innocent and not-guilty. 

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5 Things You Hear Every Day If You Are A Talkative Girl

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We all talk about how difficult it is to hear things about yourself if you are an introvert person. Like people constantly judge you and aim their taunts at you for not being as social as them. However, what no one talks about is how painful it could be to be an overly social person. So today we would share with you 5 things you hear every day if you are a talkative girl.

1. ‘Yar Iskay Moonh Me Koi Filter Nahi’?

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This is one of the biggest negative comments that a talkative girl has to hear. Since she loves talking, people start assuming that it’s their right to judge her. A lot of them even dare say things like ‘don’t you have a filter in your mouth’ right to your face if you are one.

2. ‘Kya Kha Kar Aee Thee’?

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It’s actually funny how you can be judged that you have these superpowers after eating something. It’s like one of the old superstitions we had, that’s the reason it is said to the person who talks a lot ‘kawway khaay hain kya’?

 

3.  ‘Iska Susral Main Kaisay Guzara Hoga’?

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‘How would your MiL bear you’? ‘You would have to change yourself’ are the two things talkative girls hear all the time. Its high time people realize that how a girl lives with her susral is none of their business.

If you are a person who loves to poke your nose in another girls’ personal space, know that your daughter could go through the same situation soon!

4. ‘You Are Using your Tongue more and mind, less?’

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It’s a common assumption that people who talk a lot, use their brains less. I want the readers to know that it’s not always like that. You can keep both, your tongue and brain, fresh. You can observe things and yet talk about your observations so others could learn a thing or two.

5. ‘Don’t you ever shut up?’

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Imagine you are talking to your friend who does not like to talk much unlike you and all of sudden you hear ‘don’t you ever shut up’ from her. How agonizing would it be, right?

This is why the wise once preached us to be careful with how you play with your words. You can end up hurting the person you love the most.

Since we all like to be preached in the best manner, so preach the way you want to be preached. It’s understandable sometimes we all simply are not in the mood of listening to the gossips and stories of friends but it still does not give us license of judging them.

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